Recently she got to know that an average human takes about 33-35K decisions every single day. wow! she thought – that sounds a bit creepy. Then she thought “well, that is a lot of responsibility”

By every decision that we make, we architect the next few years of our life. Isn’t it amazing? the little things that come together to frame what we call is life?

Early on, which is as of very recently, she used to believe in the fact that “life happens” – well, she wondered now, knowing what she does.. does it really happen? or do we make it happen with the decisions that we make.

One of the decisions that she definitely knew affected her life a lot was the decision to believe in God, a superpower who could make anything possible. Early on, she did not know who the superpower was but she got what she wanted at all times, whether it was a chocolate or asking for the teacher to be absent on the day she chose not to do her homework. As she grew older, it matured into bigger things like traveling to a particular destination, money, a house etc but always got what she had asked for. She now always jokes about “be careful what you wish for.. because it WILL happen. Her belief in always getting what she asked for stuns me. But I cannot deny that she is right, I look at her life and there has always been an evidence of a superpower helping her through things.

Recently she found a best friend and along with it came into her life a few principles – Love, gratefulness, forgiveness , humility and compassion. She was always a good person, never thought about hurting anyone and always the first one to help and always positively influencing people. However, there were times in her life she was placed in situations where she was tested and revenge, bad thoughts and wishes for others who harmed her came to the forefront and her good heart was overpowered.

Isn’t that what we all do? We have lots of love and care and compassion till we are hurt. She has now started calling it conditional love, conditional forgiveness and conditional gratefulness. Conditional gratefulness says – if I get what I want , instantly I am grateful, if I do not get it, I will strive to snatch it 🙂

“But, with the principles I always have a reference point, always have something to hold myself accountable for and don’t lose heart over small things” She said.

I don’t understand you and you sound too complicated was my response but thinking about it, I realised how deep and profound the thought is.

I had seen a transformation in her, as though someone had switched on a light bulb in her heart that was shining through but did not know what it was until one morning I caught up for a cup of coffee and breakfast with her at a little cafe in Sydney.

Succumbing to my curiosity about life and my innocent questions, she gave in and talked about the ever “complicated” things which would rather not be spoken about since they are not considered “cool” anymore. But I am glad. I am glad that she spoke about them and now I have a story to share, a story to think about.

While I will continue writing about what I learned from her, a question that does come to my mind is, if we were aware at all times about the decisions that we made, if we analysed them before and after the point of action, if we checked our intentions and mapped them against the principles of love would our actions be different?